Welcome to Transforming Toddlerhood!
We believe that with effective tools and strategies, you can put the “terrible twos” and “threenager” challenges behind you and experience the joy of parenting a toddler.
MEET DEVON
Hi! I’m Devon Kuntzman, PCC, founder of Transforming Toddlerhood.
I’m a wife, mama and the original toddler parenting expert on Instagram. In 2018, I created Transforming Toddlerhood with the mission to transform the myth that toddlerhood is terrible!
As an ICF-certified coach with a degree in psychology, I help thousands of families each year through courses, workshops, and the annual Transforming Toddlerhood Conference. We are a community of 1 million parents and caregivers committed to transforming their parenting, their toddler’s behavior, and overall experience of toddlerhood while creating a relationship with their child that lasts a lifetime.
Now, I want to help you overcome the chaos of toddlerhood so you can experience confidence and joy in parenting your child.
BECAUSE I’VE BEEN EXACTLY WHERE YOU ARE…
Not wanting to face another grueling day of caregiving,
and not knowing if I’m really up for the task.
In the early days of my career, I worked as a nanny for high-profile families across the globe and I’ve seen it ALL when it comes to toddler behaviors.
The crying. The tantrums. The power struggles.
About halfway through my nannying career, I noticed a disparity between how parents and caregivers were perceiving their toddlers’ behavior and what their toddlers were actually trying to communicate. And I noticed this because––drumroll––I was doing the same thing.
I realized I had labeled my kids’ behavior as a representation of my success. Every tantrum, every power struggle, every “bad” behavior was a mark of failure.
One day, while on the floor with a toddler having a meltdown duet, I had my a-ha moment. Even with my degree, my experience, and all of my knowledge in child development, I had prioritized behavior over relationship. Spoiler alert: That 👏 does 👏 not 👏 work.
But then I realized, their behavior is not actually “bad” and parents and caregivers are not “failures”’ when things feel out of hand.
I needed to reframe my perspective, disarm my triggers, and base my actions off of development and relationship. Boom. I was understanding toddler communication more clearly, recognizing the needs that drive behavior, and creating behavioral transformation through connection.
After seeing the success that this approach brought me over the years, I created the Transforming Toddlerhood Approach which I teach thousands of parents every year and utilize myself as a parent.
TRANSFORMING TODDLERHOOD APPROACH
Learn positive, developmentally appropriate parenting tools that work with your child’s development!
DECODE BEHAVIOR
Get to the root of what your toddler’s behavior is communicating so you can meet their needs within your boundaries while shifting to an empowered mindset.
NURTURE DEVELOPMENT
Take control of your emotions and actions to transform your reactions into responses, allowing you to create connection and embrace the critical development of toddlerhood.
BUILD SKILLS
Redefine discipline so you can master parenting tools and strategies that are not only effective but also build a strong relationship with your child, allowing you to become a confident guide.
Parenting then becomes something you do with your child instead of something you do to them, which creates more space for joy, fun, and healthy development for everyone!
And that’s the core of the Transforming Toddlerhood approach!
At Transforming Toddlerhood, we believe that toddlers
are not terrible.
Our proven Transforming Toddlerhood Framework allows you to walk away confident in your parenting, your toolbox filled with developmentally appropriate strategies, and (most importantly) that you’re excited to experience this precious time with your child.
YOU WANT TO FEEL LIKE A GOOD PARENT…
Even on the hard days.
Even when you’re not sure what comes next.
Whether you’re deep in the toddler trenches or simply want the best tools to support your child’s development, you deserve to feel confident and supported.
Hang out with us, and learn how to:
- Nurture your child’s emotional development
- Stay calm even when your toddler is having a hard time
- Handle challenging behavior without punishments, yelling, or threats
- Set limits and follow through with confidence
- Balance independence with age-appropriate boundaries
- Stay patient when you’re overwhelmed and exhausted
- Use positive, developmentally appropriate parenting tools
- Get on the same page with co-parents and caregivers
- Lay a strong foundation for the years ahead
HERE’S HOW WE CAN HELP
Every child is different and every parent’s journey is unique.
Let’s find the support that fits your family best.
Toddler Parenting
Starter Kit
Curious about positive parenting, but not sure where to start? Here’s the perfect launchpad! In this 10-part video series, you’ll learn about 10 core aspects of parenting toddlers and how to put them into practice right away!
Free Toddlerhood Resources
We’ve got you covered with a treasure trove of FREE resources created to help you understand your toddler’s behavior, stay calm in the hard moments, and feel more confident as you navigate these early years with greater joy and ease.
Transforming Toddlerhood
Conference
Learn from 25+ of the top experts in toddler parenting, development, and wellbeing to overcome the challenges of toddlerhood and experience more of the joys. Don’t miss these inspirational, life-changing sessions that will forever transform your parenting.
REAL VOICES FROM REAL PARENTS
Stories from parents who’ve been exactly where you are.
Experienced a massive shift!
I was constantly frustrated and very aware of not wanting to embody the same parenting style as my own parents had, which was dominated by control and anger. I experienced a massive shift through working with Devon. I was able to identify that my need to control everything was hindering exactly what I wanted to create – a mutually cooperative partnership. Devon was very compassionate and helped me return to the person I wanted to be, so I could model the behavior I wanted to see in my daughter.
– Stacey L –
Mom of 1I was able to gain techniques!
My biggest challenge was acknowledging my own emotions and offering connection during tantrums. I was being triggered and responding in anger. Through Transforming Toddlerhood, I was able to gain techniques on how to connect with myself and my son to prevent tantrums from becoming meltdowns, oftentimes diffusing them all together. Now, I feel much more confident in my abilities.
– Mandi V –
Mom of 1Capable, empowered, and confident!
I felt overwhelmed by the constant meltdowns of our son, the aggression towards his little brother and other children. We felt confused, defeated, and hopeless of anything ever changing. We didn’t enjoy parenting and we weren’t able to delight in our toddler. Now enjoy parenting our son and it is so much fun! I learned how to view the world from his lens and come alongside him to establish partnership. I feel capable, empowered, and confident in my parenting.
– Courtney W –
Mom of 2Free Toddlerhood Resources
We’ve got you covered with a treasure trove of FREE resources to help you navigate these challenging years with joy and ease.
5 Secrets That Make
Parenting Toddlers Easier
Discover the secrets to making the developmental period of toddlerhood 10x easier
Overcoming the 4 Most Challenging Toddler Behaviors
Positive, respectful, and developmentally appropriate tools to help you handle the toughest toddler challenges and raise an emotionally healthy child without losing your cool.
10 Simple Strategies for Ending Power Struggles
Power struggles are one of the biggest challenges of toddlerhood. Learn simple strategies to end the exhausting cycle in a way that creates cooperation and nurtures development without extinguishing your toddler’s spirit.
5 Toddler Discipline Phrases To Avoid
Effective discipline is foundational for helping you manage and transform your toddler’s challenging behavior. But disciplining your child doesn’t have to be confusing, shameful, or upsetting for everyone.
Household Tasks For Toddlers
You can nurture your child’s desire to help in the early years to build lifelong habits! Practice inviting your child into an activity by giving them a task they are excited about and capable of doing alongside you.
25 Alternatives to “Good Job!”
The way you praise your toddler has a direct impact on creating a strong and healthy self-esteem. Learn how to give your toddler praise in a way that develops confidence, resilience, and a growth mindset with this empowering mini-guide.
Responding to Hitting Scripts
Hitting is one of the biggest challenges. It’s also really triggering. This freebie will share exactly what to do and say in those moments of frustration to support our toddler’s development.
Reasons To Love The Toddler Years
Discover the joy in every toddler step! Toddlerhood is a challenging developmental period but it doesn’t have to be terrible. Explore the wonderful reasons that make the toddler years truly magical even during the challenging moments.
Parenting your toddler doesn’t have to be terrible.
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