About

Welcome to Transforming Toddlerhood!

We believe that with effective tools and strategies, you can put the “terrible twos” and “threenager” challenges behind you and experience the joy of parenting a toddler.

Hi! I’m Devon

Founder of Transforming Toddlerhood

I’m a wife, mama and the original toddler parenting expert on Instagram. In 2018, I created Transforming Toddlerhood with the mission to transform the myth that toddlerhood is terrible!

As an ICF certified coach with a degree in psychology, I help thousands of families each year through courses, workshops, and the annual Transforming Toddlerhood Conference. We are a community of 700,000 parents and caregivers committed to transforming their parenting, their toddler’s behavior, and overall experience of toddlerhood while creating a relationship with their child that lasts a lifetime.

Now, I want to help you overcome the chaos of toddlerhood so you can experience confidence and joy in parenting your child.

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BECAUSE I’VE BEEN EXACTLY WHERE YOU ARE…

Not wanting to face another grueling day of caregiving,
and not knowing if I’m really up for the task.

In the early days of my career, I worked as a nanny for high-profile families across the globe and I’ve seen it ALL when it comes to toddler behaviors.

The crying. The tantrums. The power struggles.

About halfway through my nannying career, I noticed a disparity between how parents and caregivers were perceiving their toddlers’ behavior and what their toddlers were actually trying to communicate. And I noticed this because––drumroll––I was doing the same thing.

I realized I had labeled my kids’ behavior as a representation of my success. Every tantrum, every power struggle, every “bad” behavior was a mark of failure.

One day, while on the floor with a toddler having a meltdown duet, I had my a-ha moment. Even with my degree, my experience, and all of my knowledge in child development, I had prioritized behavior over relationship. Spoiler alert: That 👏 does 👏 not 👏 work.

But then I realized, their behavior is not actually “bad” and parents and caregivers are not “failures”’ when things feel out of hand.

I needed to reframe my perspective, disarm my triggers, and base my actions off of development and relationship. Boom. I was understanding toddler communication more clearly, recognizing the needs that drive behavior, and creating behavioral transformation through connection.

After seeing the success that this approach brought me over the years, I created the Transforming Toddlerhood Approach which I teach thousands of parents every year and utilize myself as a parent.

Transforming Toddlerhood Approach

Learn positive, developmentally appropriate parenting tools that work with your child’s development – not against it!

DECODE BEHAVIOR

Get to the root of what your toddler’s behavior is communicating so you can meet their needs with in your boundaries while shifting to an empowered mindset.

NURTURE DEVELOPMENT

Take control of your emotions and actions to transform your reactions in to responses allowing you to create connection and embrace the critical development of toddlerhood.

BUILD SKILLS

Redefine discipline so you can master parenting tools and strategies that are not only effective but also build a strong relationship with your child allowing you to become a confident guide.

Parenting then becomes something you do with your child instead of something you do to them, which creates more space for joy, fun, and healthy development for everyone!

And that’s the core of the Transforming Toddlerhood approach!

CHOOSE A PATH

At Transforming Toddlerhood we believe that toddlers
are not terrible.

Our proven Transforming Toddlerhood Framework allows you to walk away confident in your parenting, your toolbox filled with developmentally appropriate strategies, and (most importantly) that you’re excited to experience this precious time with your child.

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Look, I know you JUST want to know that

you’re a good parent to your toddler.

Whether you’re struggling with parenting a toddler or you just want to know that you’re using the best tools to shape their development…

Hang out with us, and learn how to:

Nurture your child’s emotional development
Keep a calm mind even your toddler is upset
Overcome behavior challenges without punishments, yelling, or threats
Set limits and boundaries and follow through
Balance independence with reasonable rules
Stay patient even when you’re overwhelmed and exhausted
Use positive, developmentally appropriate parenting tools
Get on the same page with co-parents and caregivers
Set the foundation for your parenting for years to come!

HERE’S HOW WE CAN HELP!

Every child is different . . . and so is every parent! Choose the path that’s right for you.

Toddler Parenting
Starter Kit

Curious about positive parenting, but not sure where to start? Here’s the perfect launchpad! In this 10-part video series, you’ll learn about 10 core aspects of parenting toddlers and how to put them into practice right away!

YES! I NEED THIS

Workshops

Need expert support with a specific challenge? And need it RIGHT NOW? We have virtual, on-demand workshops that dive deep and provide practical, ready-to-use tools and strategies to make parenting your toddler waaaay easier.

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Transforming Toddlerhood
Conference

Learn from 25+ of the top experts in toddler parenting, development, and wellbeing to overcome the challenges of toddlerhood and experience more of the joys. Don’t miss these inspirational, life-changing sessions that will forever transform your parenting.

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We’ve transformed the lives of thousands of parents just like you.

Here’s what they have to say.

Experienced a massive shift!

I was constantly frustrated and very aware of not wanting to embody the same parenting style as my own parents had, which was dominated by control and anger. I experienced a massive shift through working with Devon. I was able to identify that my need to control everything was hindering exactly what I wanted to create – a mutually cooperative partnership. Devon was very compassionate and helped me return to the person I wanted to be, so I could model the behavior I wanted to see in my daughter.

– Stacey L –

Mama of 1

I was able to gain techniques!

My biggest challenge was acknowledging my own emotions and offering connection during tantrums. I was being triggered and responding in anger. Through Transforming Toddlerhood, I was able to gain techniques on how to connect with myself and my son to prevent tantrums from becoming meltdowns, oftentimes diffusing them all together. Now, I feel much more confident in my abilities.

– Mandi V –

Mom of 1

I feel capable, empowered, and confident!

I felt overwhelmed by the constant meltdowns of our son, the aggression towards his little brother and other children. We felt confused, defeated, and hopeless of anything ever changing. We didn’t enjoy parenting and we weren’t able to delight in our toddler. Now enjoy parenting our son and it is so much fun! I learned how to view the world from his lens and come alongside him to establish partnership. I feel capable, empowered, and confident in my parenting.

– Courtney W –

Mom of 2

Free Toddlerhood Resources

We’ve got you covered with a treasure trove of FREE resources to help you navigate these challenging years with joy and ease.

25 Alternatives to
“Good Job”

Want your child to be motivated, resilient, and have strong self-esteem? Of course you do! Boost your child’s confidence with intentional praise that supports a growth mindset!

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10 Simple Strategies for Ending Power Struggles

Power struggles are one of the biggest challenges of toddlerhood. Learn simple strategies to end the exhausting cycle in a way that creates cooperation and nurtures development without extinguishing your toddler’s spirit.

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Welcome to Transforming Toddlerhood!

Hi! I’m Devon

Not wanting to face another grueling day of caregiving,
and not knowing if I’m really up for the task.