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The toddler years can be challenging. But they don’t have to be this hard. Here, you’ll find practical, ready-for-action strategies to navigate toddlerhood.

The

truth

about

toddlerhood

(it's not as terrible as you think)

Terrible twos. Threenagers. Adorable dictators. The challenges of this stage have resulted in some colorful characterizations. But in reality, behaviors often labeled “bad” are actually a normal and important part of this critical developmental period.

If we understand this development, we can better navigate (and influence) the behavior that comes with it.

90% of a child's brain develops by age 5.
Their neural connections are being made at a rate of a million per second. No wonder they need naps.
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Toddlers are built to try everything (including your patience).
Toddlers are physiologically driven to explore, experimenting with the world around them and testing boundaries, capabilities, and reactions to their actions.
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They’re developing sense-of-self.
Toddlers become aware that they are individuals. Which means they are separate from their parents. This is where many power struggles are born.
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Emotional health starts here.
Toddlers are experiencing big emotions. It is vitally important that they are taught to create a healthy relationship with their feelings, so they can grow to be resilient.
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So does your relationship.
Parent-child interactions during the toddler years set the foundation for those relationships for years to come.
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Hi,

I'm Devon.

So happy you're here!

I’m a ICF certified coach and the Founder of Transforming Toddlerhood. I’m passionate about empowering toddler parents to transform their frustration, fear and self-doubt into confidence so they can overcome behavioral challenges, experience joy and create a parent-child relationship that lasts a lifetime through connection.

Today, we’re a community of more than 100,000 parents and caregivers from around the world.

Ready to start

the transformation?

No matter where you are in your parenting journey, we have something to support you.

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Real-life, ready-for action strategies that you can implement right now to start seeing change—for free!

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The perfect place to begin transforming your parenting and your toddler’s behavior.

Transforming Toddlerhood
Parenting Academy

Everything you need to overcome the challenges of toddlerhood and become the Loving Leader & Guide™ you envision for your child.

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TRUE OR FALSE?

Being a perfect mom does NOT exist. 🤔

This is so very TRUE, yet, there are infinite ways to be the mom your child needs. ❤️

One of the most critical pieces of a baby and toddler’s life is to have a secure attachment with at least one adult. A parent or primary caregiver who offers them a sense of SAFETY no matter what they do or how they act in any given moment, COMFORT when they're experiencing big emotions that they don't know how to control, and ACKNOWLEDGMENT that their feelings are valid.

These safe and secure interactions with an adult caregiver early in life create neural pathways and connections influences the pattern for their nervous system to respond/react to certain situations and how they respond/react in the future. 

It's important to know these patterns aren't set in stone once they are formed. YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE A PERFECT PARENT. Our brains have neuroplasticity so the neural pathways and connection can change over time with growth and experiences. According to The Center on the Developing Child at Harvard University "It is easier and less costly to form strong brain circuits during the early years than it is to intervene or “fix” them later." So just look for the next moment to create connection and nurture your child's developing instead of trying to do it all the time and focusing on perfection. 

So what does that look like in day to day life? Making eye contact 👀 with your little one, listening and responding to their questions🗣, validating their feelings💫, setting boundaries and solving problems together 🤝.

This doesn’t require you to be a perfect parent engaging with their child every minute of the day (and night!). That’s definitely not the case. As long as you are showing up for your child, not perfectly, but consistently and predictably that’s enough!

Do you feel the pressure for perfection? How does it show up in your parenting?
Yesterday was Mother's Day and we took the time to recognize all of the hardworking, exhausted, and brave Moms in this community!

Today, I want to recognize ALL of the parents and caregivers who are here looking for support. You are not alone in feeling all these things and more. Parenting is hard AND you are not a failure!

Toddlerhood has challenges that are unique. Your baby goes from happy go lucky to a strong willed toddler seemingly overnight. All the friends and family who were so eager to come and hold your newborn are no longer offering their support as readily. It can leave some parents feeling isolated and as though it’s only your home that feels wild.

These are just a few of the most common feelings that clients from around the world share with me daily. The list goes on! Each family is unique and all challenges are met differently.

I want you to know:
❤️YOU ARE ENOUGH
❤️YOU ARE ALLOWED TO BE HUMAN
❤️YOUR FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS DON'T MAKE YOU BAD OR WRONG
❤️YOU ARE NOT FAILING

Instead of beating yourself on the inside, I invite you to embrace what is. Acceptance without without placing a good/bad judgement on it. You are allowed to be where you are at. Don’t forget to acknowledge your feelings, they’re valid!  Having these feelings don’t make you weak, they make you human. 

Next time you are feeling overwhelmed with parenting and life, I invite you to shift your mindset from I'm failing to I'M HUMAN AND I'M LEARNING.

Each day (and even every moment) is a new opportunity to learn, grow and take a step towards the future you envision as a parent. I empower you to step back and use the clarity to create something new where the old isn’t working. This could be asking a relative for babysitting support. Or rethinking the meal plan for the week. It could even mean trying a new approach if you realize something doesn't feel right or isn't resonating with your child. 

🌟Tag a mama, dad or other caregiver that needs this reminder and support today!!!

Are you hard on yourself when you get overwhelmed with parenting and life? Where could you create something new today?
You are SEEN, you are HEARD, and you are LOVED.

Take what you need today and share the love with another Mom who needs it too ↓

❤️ A reminder that your little ones are sleeping soundly, worry-free, and safe because you were up all night comforting them.

❤️ A reminder that dishes and laundry are just THINGS. And if they're piled up high, it's okay. They can be done tomorrow or the next day. You can do they as you need them if you can't tackle them all at once.

❤️ A reminder that you are strong and there will always be a special place in your heart for your sweet baby.

❤️ A reminder that you are allowed to have privacy and want a few moments to yourself. It's not selfish.

❤️ A reminder that parenthood is challenging but it won't ALWAYS be as challenging as it is in this moment.

❤️ A reminder that you are doing your best for you and your family and your hard word is what's keeping it together.

❤️ A reminder that you are teaching your little ones what it means to be independent and self-sufficient and proud.

Remember to LOVE yourself and your perfectly imperfect journey through motherhood.

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!

Tell me which reminder you needed to see today and tag a Mom who needs to see this ↓
Let's talk about unconditional love ↓

The degree to which you struggle to love your child unconditionally may reflect the degree to which you are unwilling to love yourself unconditionally.

💗 Read that again.💗

We are all allowed to make mistakes AND still be loved. Even when it seems as though your toddler is “being bad” or doing something “against you on purpose” your little one is saying “I’m giving you my hardest moment because I love you the most.”. They are always seeking your unconditional love and acceptance of who they are at their core. Just like you and me. We all have the same needs.

Showing a young child compassion during a hard moment isn’t spoiling them or reinforcing bad behavior. It’s actually the way that we show them our unconditional love. Just as giving ourselves compassion when we feel triggered, frustration or as though we aren't enough is an act of love.

With Mother's Day tomorrow it's a great moment to stop and reflect:
💗How are you doing with giving yourself self-love and compassion? 
💗What needs do you have that are going unmet?
💗How can you acknowledge yourself for all that you do as a parent?

Practicing connection with yourself will create space for you to connect with your toddler when they are having a hard time coping. Once we work together to build a connection with our toddler based on unconditional love and the understanding that NOTHING they do will make us love them any less, we will strengthen our bond and be able to understand them on a deeper level.

Drop a ❤️ for unconditional love for your toddler AND yourself. How are you practicing this?
Moms, I see you. 

Dads, I hear you.

Grandparents and Nannies, I'm here for you.

It doesn't matter what your family situation is or how old your child is, one thing we all know to be true is that parenting is a ROLLERCOASTER. The toddler years are especially challenging because it's the first time as parents and caregivers that we are undoubtedly faced with things like temper tantrums, power struggles, "NO!", "WHY?", hitting, yelling, and sharing challenges. It's a whole new world of development, behavior and discovery. 

We not only have to figure out how to understand it all, but to teach our toddlers the skills they need to understand it themselves and to be able to regulate their emotions. They're becoming little people of their own and we are responsible for being their Loving Leader & Guide ™️ AND keeping our own sanity. It's hard, it can feel impossible, it can be confusing, and it can be lonely. And when things go awry, it can feel like you are doing a bad job. 

THE FEELING WILL PASS. YOU ARE ENOUGH!

You are not a bad parent, you are not doing it wrong, you are not alone.

It's OKAY if your kids had a bowl of cereal for dinner because you didn't have the energy to cook.

It's OKAY if you lost your temper and yelled at your toddler for calling your name 30 times in a row just to ask for a snack.

It's OKAY if you skipped story time before bed because you were about to have a meltdown after a long day.

Some days, toddlerhood will feel like it's the most magical time in you and your child's lives and some days it will feel like you won't make it out alive. That's parenthood ❤️

And you can do this. You love your child and your child loves you.

Tag a friend who needs to see this and tell me the UPs and DOWNs you've experienced this week. 👇

🌟 If you need support on your parenting journey to help you see that toddlerhood doesn't always have to be so difficult, then I invite you to click the link in my bio and look into these 3 ways I can help 👉🏼The Toddler Parenting Starter Kit, Mini 1:1 Parenting Strategy Sessions, and the Toddler Parenting Academy Membership. Details on each at the link in my bio or dm me for details! 🌟

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