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Wednesday, March 30th - Sunday, April 3rd

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days of learning and growth for
parents and caregivers of kids
ages 1-5

experts on toddler behavior, health development and parenting

effective tools and strategies to transform your parenting

Overcome
the challenges. Experience
the joy.

The toddler years can be challenging. But they don’t have to be this hard. Here, you’ll find practical, ready-for-action strategies to navigate toddlerhood.

The

truth

about

toddlerhood

(it's not as terrible as you think)

Terrible twos. Threenagers. Adorable dictators. The challenges of this stage have resulted in some colorful characterizations. But in reality, behaviors often labeled “bad” are actually a normal and important part of this critical developmental period.

If we understand this development, we can better navigate (and influence) the behavior that comes with it.

90% of a child's brain develops by age 5.

Their neural connections are being made at a rate of a million per second. No wonder they need naps.

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Toddlers are built to try everything (including your patience).

Toddlers are physiologically driven to explore, experimenting with the world around them and testing boundaries, capabilities, and reactions to their actions.

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They’re developing sense-of-self.

Toddlers become aware that they are individuals. Which means they are separate from their parents. This is where many power struggles are born.

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Emotional health starts here.

Toddlers are experiencing big emotions. It is vitally important that they are taught to create a healthy relationship with their feelings, so they can grow to be resilient.

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So does your relationship.

Parent-child interactions during the toddler years set the foundation for those relationships for years to come.

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I'm Devon.

So happy you're here!

I’m a ICF certified coach and the Founder of Transforming Toddlerhood. I’m passionate about empowering toddler parents to transform their frustration, fear and self-doubt into confidence so they can overcome behavioral challenges, experience joy and create a parent-child relationship that lasts a lifetime through connection.

Today, we’re a community of more than 500,000 parents and caregivers from around the world.

Ready to start

the transformation?

No matter where you are in your parenting journey, we have something to support you.

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Everything you need to overcome the challenges of toddlerhood and become the Loving Leader & Guide™ you envision for your child.

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Follow for daily toddler parenting tips, advice and inspiration.

Mealtimes can be packed with emotions for both ...

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Mealtimes can be packed with emotions for both parents and toddlers. Of course it’s us adults that are often the most concerned with a child getting proper nutrition at every meal. To this I want to share, it’s more about what your child eats throughout a 24 hour period, than at one sitting.

Food can have deeper meanings that we may realize. Whether or not a child eats can create a power struggle or a feeling of rejection or success for us adults, depending on how the meal is received. Adults have a tendency to place these meanings onto meals when a toddler just sees - food.

The best way to shift this is to remember what your job is as an adult. What your child’s job is. When everyone’s role is clear mealtimes start to shift. I invite you to focus on your job and specifically what you can control. From there focus on creating connection and trust rather than reacting to how your toddler does their job at meals. This takes practice!

A few tips on exploring foods with your little one;
🔸You may have to offer your child a new food around 12-30 times before accepting it. Don’t give up right away!
🔸Prepare foods in different ways. Your kiddo may love raw carrot sticks and not (yet) like steamed carrots.
🔸Always be sure to offer something your child likes alongside a new food.
🔸Create partnership by making the menu together and offering choices within your boundaries.

As the Loving Leader & Guide™ it’s your job to set limits and respect your child’s body by not forcing them to eat. We want to create a positive association with mealtimes and food in general. Also, it’s important to teach toddlers to understand what feeling ✨hungry✨ and ✨full✨ both feel like rather than what we perceive as an onlooker.

Does mealtime bring up big feelings for you or your co-parent? How do you navigate it?

#toddlermeals #toddlermealtime #toddlertips #transformingtoddlerhood

It takes a village! 👶👩🧑👵

How ...

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It takes a village! 👶👩🧑👵

How do you feel when you hear moms say that? Do you relate? Or do you have a mantra that gets you through the hard times?

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Tell me in the comments below and let’s show support for those who need it right now!

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A “perfect parent” is a myth. Just as a ...

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A “perfect parent” is a myth. Just as a “perfect child” does not exist.
We are all human, trying to figure out how to be our own person, feel supported through big emotions, be taught the skills we need to thrive in the world, and feel unconditional love. ❤️

Toddlers just need to feel loved unconditionally and have you show up for them, however that looks for you. It doesn’t mean playing with them every time they ask or reading every single book before bedtime. It means sticking with them through the tantrums, saying “I love you” every day, and teaching them how to behave rather than punishing them.

It’s also taking care of ourselves so that we can have a positive impact on taking care of our little ones. It’s like a two for one deal!

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How are you feeling these days? What could you use support around?

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#transformingtoddlerhood #toddlertips #toddlerparenting #motherhoodunplugged

For more support in overcoming the challenges of ...

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For more support in overcoming the challenges of toddlerhood and creating confidence in your parenting skills be sure to follow [@transformingtoddlerhood](https://www.instagram.com/transformingtoddlerhood/ "‌") ❤️

Can you relate to some or all of these thoughts? Do you find yourself having a roller coaster of emotions during your day?

I hear you, believe me I know the wide range of feelings that spending your days/months/years with toddlers can bring up. It’s mentally exhausting as well as physically demanding to care for a toddler. You may have a great day followed by a really hard day. That’s not a reflection on you, there’s nothing ‘wrong’ with you or your family.

I want you to know that these thoughts are NORMAL. Parents can feel isolated in their own world with their own unique family’s ups and downs. This community is here to remind you that you’re not alone and that we are all here to support each other.

There is no right way to care for your toddler. You are doing your best, just like your little one!

What are some of the thoughts that are on your mind lately? I invite you to share them below and hopefully release any negative feelings behind them.

#transformingtoddlerhood #toddlertips #toddlerparenting #gentleparenting #motherhoodunplugged

I know having a toddler who runs off can be ...

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I know having a toddler who runs off can be frightening. It’s a natural desire that toddlers encounter at least occasionally. So how do we practice positive parenting while navigating this challenge?

You can try the 3 ways to creating a shift around running off that I included in today’s post, and don’t forget to PRACTICE!

Remember, impulse control really starts to develop around age four, so it will be a work in progress for younger toddlers. Practicing and repetition will help understand in the long term.

Does your toddler run off in public? How have you addressed this challenge previously? Tell me in the comments below!

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#transformingtoddlerhood #toddlertips #toddlerparenting

You cannot control a toddler. You can only control...

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You cannot control a toddler. You can only control yourself- including your words and actions. ❤️

When it comes to limits, your toddler needs to have some sense of control, but not be in TOTAL control.

→ So when you set a limit, it’s your toddler’s job to test it.

But when an adult doesn’t follow through with the limit, it’s harder to expect a toddler to listen the next time they come up against one. You’re sending a conflicting message that’s inconsistent. Toddlers thrive with consistency even when they don’t like the limit.

→I encourage you to be intentional about what your own boundaries are so you know what limits your need to set. It reduces the confusion for you AND your toddler in the hard moments.

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✨Can you use some more support in understanding parenting roles and styles? How about creating and holding limits? Click the link in my bio to learn more about my Toddler Parenting Starter Kit. This mini course was designed to support you in creating a foundation for transforming your parenting and creating confidence in your parenting skills!✨

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Do you struggle to set limits and hold limits that you set?

#transformingtoddlerhood #toddlertips #toddlerparenting #toddlerhood

Is your toddler interrupting you while you're...

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Is your toddler interrupting you while you're talking to your parenting partner or while you’re working? You are not alone! I get questioned about this topic at least once a week.

Good news though! Patience is a learned ability. No one is born with a finite amount of patience, (especially toddlers!). Both adults and children can cultivate patience with practice. The ability for your toddler to wait is related to their brain development and their current emotional state. They lack brain maturation in their prefrontal cortex which is responsible for impulse control. So toddlers need the support of adults to develop this skill.

Tell me, how are you supporting yourself in cultivating patience? What’s your biggest challenge?

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Follow @transformingtoddlerhood for more tips like this during the toddler years and comment “LIMITS” below to get an inside look at the Setting Limits With Confidence Workshop. ✨

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We never said we’re perfect. 🙃

In ...

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$We never said we’re perfect. 🙃 In fact, perfection does not exist in parenting! Every time we find our calm instead of yelling, every time we stay and wait for our toddler to stop crying to comfort them instead of walking away in frustration during a tantrum, every time we teach our toddler what to do instead of hitting when they get mad, we are making PROGRESS. We won’t catch ourselves every time we go to yell back at our toddler, and that’s okay. We may sneak a cookie or two when we tell them they can’t have one before dinner…but we are making progress toward becoming the parents we want to be and positively influencing our child. ❤️ Tell me if you’ve ever snuck that cookie and tag that friend who you know DEFINITELY has too! 😂 Thank you @heartilyart for this inspiring and relatable post! \#transformingtoddlerhood #parentinghumor #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodintheraw #toddlerparenting$

Toddlerhood is filled with ups and downs, wins and...

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$Toddlerhood is filled with ups and downs, wins and failures, happiness and unhappiness. Although challenging, the toddler years are some of the best that we'll get to experience as we watch firsthand our babies become their very own human beings with personalities and all. So, we as parents and caregivers can either embrace these challenging but magical years or completely miss out on them comparing ourselves and thinking they are "terrible" once they’re grown. Today, I choose positivity and I choose to let go of comparison. (Tomorrow might look different! And that's okay.) Tag a friend (or comment "that's me") who is just trying to make it through each day with a toddler and tag a friend who deserves a shoutout! ↓ ❤️ Follow @transformingtoddlerhood for parenting support through the toddler years. ❤️ ‌ \#transformingtoddlerhood #toddlertips #toddlerparenting$

Do you resort to time-out, yelling, taking toys ...

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$Do you resort to time-out, yelling, taking toys away, threatening to not go to the birthday in response to your toddler’s challenging behavior? If so, I get it! It (sometimes) creates compliance in the moment and it feels like a win because they picked up their mess, stopped hitting the dog, and came to you when you asked. The thing is, punishments don’t change behavior long term. It just becomes a constant cycle. And oftentimes, parents confuse discipline with punishment. What I want you to take away from this is that there is a better way to discipline your child. A way that nurtures their development instead of working against it. The answer is Positive Discipline. 💫 Positive discipline focuses on teaching a child skills that support the development of self control so they are able to regulate their own behavior. What are your thoughts on toddler discipline? Are you interested in steering clear of conventional methods and focusing on positive discipline? ↓ 🌟Join the Effective Toddler Discipline Workshop (Parts 1 & 2) to learn how to get your toddler to follow through on limits and discipline without yelling, threats, or bribes by commenting “DISCIPLINE” below!🌟 ‌ \#transformingtoddlerhood #positiveparenting #gentleparenting$

Navigating challenging toddler behavior as the ...

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$Navigating challenging toddler behavior as the parent can be physically draining and emotionally exhausting😰 but it's equally as much for the child. So commonly we think our toddler is being bad and there is something ‘wrong’ that needs fixing when faced with this type of behavior. Yet, these behaviors are developmentally typical. There is nothing wrong with your child and these behaviors don't need to be fixed. They need to be looked at through a different lens and met from a place of curiosity, compassion, love, and connection. We have the opportunity to be our child's Loving Leader & Guide™️ and show them that we support them in the easeful times and especially the challenging times. That they are not a "bad" child for behaving a certain way, and that it is not their fault. It's our job to teach them the coping and life skills they need to work through and regulate their big feelings. And it's also our job to take a break, ask for help, or put our needs first sometimes too. What struggles are you currently facing with your toddler? What about with yourself? Where could you use the most support? 🌟Are you curious about positive parenting, but don’t know where to start? Or maybe you're at your wit’s end and need to create change RIGHT NOW... OR maybe you just want to experience more confidence and joy in your parenting...if this sounds about right, then the Toddler Parenting Starter Kit is the PERFECT launchpad for you. It's only $27 at the link in bio.🌟 ‌ \#transformingtoddlerhood #toddlertips #toddlerparenting ---$

Remember, there is always a feeling, emotion or ...

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$Remember, there is always a feeling, emotion or need driving your child's behavior. Even if you can’t find the root of ‘why’ it’s important to see your child as doing their best with the limited experience and brain maturation they have. By allowing yourself to connect with your child even though you may want to jump to the “time out” or just move on. After connection then you can move onto setting limits and then teaching skills when the big emotions have dissipated for everyone. When we find the root, the behavior may resolve itself rather quickly - especially if you focus on meeting your child’s needs within your boundaries. So if there is whining, perhaps that child needs your undivided attention for 15 minutes to reconnect. Or if the dog bowl was turned over, redirect your toddler to a sink filled with sudsy water and plastic bowls to dump. What feelings and emotions to you find is hard to accept? Do you find it hard to connect with your toddler and accept their feelings and emotions while still setting limits? 🌟Have you looked in to the Setting Limits With Confidence Workshop? Challenging behavior is hard to navigate so learn how to set limits and follow through even when your toddler says No! You can join by commenting “LIMITS” below!🌟 ‌ \#transformingtoddlerhood #toddlertips #toddlerparenting$

Transforming Toddlerhood Conference

Overcome toddlerhood challenges, nurture development and create confidence in your parenting skills.

Fifth Edition of the only online parenting event that focuses solely on the toddler years!

Free Virtual Event

Wednesday, March 30th - Sunday, April 3rd

days of learning and growth for
parents and caregivers of kids
ages 1-5

experts on toddler behavior, health development and parenting

effective tools and strategies to transform your parenting

Overcome
the challenges. Experience
the joy.

The

truth

about

toddlerhood

(it's not as terrible as you think)

Terrible twos. Threenagers. Adorable dictators. The challenges of this stage have resulted in some colorful characterizations. But in reality, behaviors often labeled “bad” are actually a normal and important part of this critical developmental period.

If we understand this development, we can better navigate (and influence) the behavior that comes with it.

Hi,

I'm Devon.

So happy you're here!

Today, we’re a community of more than 500,000 parents and caregivers from around the world.

Ready to start

the transformation?