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The toddler years can be challenging. But they don’t have to be this hard. Here, you’ll find practical, ready-for-action strategies to navigate toddlerhood.

The

truth

about

toddlerhood

(it's not as terrible as you think)

Terrible twos. Threenagers. Adorable dictators. The challenges of this stage have resulted in some colorful characterizations. But in reality, behaviors often labeled “bad” are actually a normal and important part of this critical developmental period.

If we understand this development, we can better navigate (and influence) the behavior that comes with it.

90% of a child's brain develops by age 5.
Their neural connections are being made at a rate of a million per second. No wonder they need naps.
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Toddlers are built to try everything (including your patience).
Toddlers are physiologically driven to explore, experimenting with the world around them and testing boundaries, capabilities, and reactions to their actions.
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They’re developing sense-of-self.
Toddlers become aware that they are individuals. Which means they are separate from their parents. This is where many power struggles are born.
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Emotional health starts here.
Toddlers are experiencing big emotions. It is vitally important that they are taught to create a healthy relationship with their feelings, so they can grow to be resilient.
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So does your relationship.
Parent-child interactions during the toddler years set the foundation for those relationships for years to come.
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Hi,

I'm Devon.

So happy you're here!

I’m a ICF certified coach and the Founder of Transforming Toddlerhood. I’m passionate about empowering toddler parents to transform their frustration, fear and self-doubt into confidence so they can overcome behavioral challenges, experience joy and create a parent-child relationship that lasts a lifetime through connection.

Today, we’re a community of more than 100,000 parents and caregivers from around the world.

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Who else is feeling this right now especially with it staying lighter later?! ☀️

The summertime struggle is REAL...

Naps are almost non-existent because of summer outings,  pool parties and BBQ's and the kids are having a BLAST. 🌊

Bedtime is barely a thing because our kiddos say "but it's not time to go to bed, it's still light out!" 🤦‍♀️

Tantrums are in full swing due to the wonderful combination of fun in the sun, no naps, and later bedtime, PLUS our toddlers seeing older kids in the neighborhood outside playing and are wondering why they can't play too.

Not to mention, they seem to have THE MOST to do at THE MOST inopportune time. Bath time, mealtime, rest time, you name it. It's like they keep a secret list of tasks that they pull out the moment we say BEDTIME! 🤣

It's not all bad, of course, we have these sunkissed little mini-me's that are happy as can be and we have more time than ever to spend with them this summer. If we just take it one day at a time, we'll make it through!

What's ONE toddler struggle you face in the summertime? What's your favorite part of summer with your toddler? Then tag a parent whose toddler is a master to-do list maker at bedtime!
DO YOU EVER COMPLIMENT YOUR TODDLER ON THINGS OTHER THAN THEIR APPEARANCE? 🥰

"You're so cute!"
"I love your little toes."
"You are the most handsome boy in the world!"
"I wish I had hair as beautiful as yours!"

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We compliment our children every single day based on their appearance, and why wouldn't we, they're so stinking cute! ❤️Everyone loves to receive a compliments, even our little ones! We also want to avoid children feeling as though their self-worth is centered on how they look as they grow and develop. 

So I invite you to ask yourself, "am I also complimenting them on their non-physical attributes? Like their character and the effort they put into doing things you ask (or don't ask)?"

Children are so much more than their appearance and they need to know that their everyday efforts are noticed. That their most important qualities are not how they look, but who they are in the inside. Positive self-image starts with US, their Loving Leader & Guide™️, and it's our role to teach our children what's important - being proud of themselves, loving themselves, and not to compare themselves to others. 🌟

I always find lists like this helpful, don’t you? it inspires me to find new words and phrases. My hope is that these phrases inspire you. Talk another parent or caregiver that might find these helpful as well!

When was the last time you complimented your toddler on something other than appearance? Do you do one more than the other? Let's talk about it in the comments! 👇🏼
DO YOU WISH YOUR TODDLER WOULD SPEND MORE TIME PLAYING INDEPENDENTLY? 🧐

When we talk about independent play during the toddler years, it’s important to keep our expectations in alignment with development capabilities. This is something that takes practice and varies from child to child, and environment to environment. There’s no one path to teaching a toddler how to happily play independently for hours at a time. The goal is to support them while they grow into it.

Here are some great ways to support your child in developing their attention span! ↓
🌟Sensory play; tactile play using any of the 5 senses
🌟Open-ended toys that spark creativity
🌟Rotating toys to keep the environment new and exciting
🌟Observing their interests and creating play opportunities that coincide
🌟Noticing when your child is focused and avoid interrupting them

If you have a 3-year-old who can’t independently play alone, that’s ok! This is simply a guide. For anyone looking to set their toddler up for success, I suggest setting the scene with their current interest in toys/activities. Engage with them while they play, be on their level and connected. Don’t let your phone or other distractions come into the room if you can. Then after 15 minutes of toddler-led playtime, say something like, “Mommy has to go into the kitchen. I’ll be back to check on you in 5 minutes.” Staying close by and ideally in sight. Also, be sure to come back quickly. Building TRUST and following through so you will always be back as you say. 

If your little one won’t let you leave the room, it’s OK, this takes lots of time and patience. It's a bigger deal to them, being left to play on their own when all they've known if having a partner to play with, than it seems to you. You’ll get there with intentional practice ❤️

What are your hurdles when it comes to independent play? What is the most engaging activity for your toddler to practice independent play?
I promise you, they are not trying to be difficult on purpose ❤️

We are all inherently good. We’re all humans who make mistakes and learn as we go, no matter our age or our life experiences. When we arrive at a situation where emotions run high, I invite you to first approach your toddler, or a stranger, with love and compassion.

🌟 Your toddler is looking to you for guidance in each and every moment, even when it seems like they are pushing you away. Their greatest need is to be seen, heard, understood and unconditionally loved especially in the challenging moments where we want to explode. We all want to be seen, heard, and loved while we learn how to get through each day together.

🌟 Toddlerhood is the first time they’re exploring their independence. They are driven to investigate, get into things in order to test cause and effort for themselves. Exploring and curiosity can sometimes look like defiance or pushing back against boundaries to parents. In reality, toddlers need to test their limits to know what’s acceptable. Even in those moments, they are always looking to you for guidance and love.

🌟 You can never share your love too much with your little one. As important as it is to show them love with eye contact, hugs, kisses, and hold their hand, it’s also important to verbally share your love. Acknowledging their efforts and kindness can never be overstated. Filling their love tank is only going to make your connection deeper and blossom as they get older!

Want to learn how to acknowledge your child and their behavior in a way that goes beyond "Good Job" and helps them cultivate a growth mindset? Download my freebie 21 Alternative to Good Job (link in bio). it's must read for giving your toddler positive reinforcment for the behavior your want to see more of!

Do you notice your toddler trying their best even if they are having a difficult time? How do you respond/show them you notice their efforts?

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